“A happy person is like a rock that falls to the ground and stays there calmly. After all, everyone and everything in the world is after a goal that is hidden somewhere within them. Rock wants to fall, fire wants to reach the sky, and man wants to be happy. If this person develops his talents, mental characteristics, and qualities correctly, he will reach a good life and be happy.” – Aristotle.
No matter how we look at it, we are leaving behind a year that has somehow been challenging for all of us. Maybe we are in a much different spot than we expected at the beginning of the year. Perhaps it was a year full of difficulties, but we could reach the points we hoped for. Whatever happened last year, I think we always have a chance to innovate and change. As long as humans exist, there is hope. So, what do we want to happen in the new year? What do we aim for? How about listing them?
Setting goals at the start of the new year has a different meaning. With the change of the year on the calendar, it seems as if a new, clean page is opening in our minds. It is a blank page spread to try the untried, make new beginnings, and give a chance to the challenging goal again. This situation seems to me to present their intentions towards life and to state it in writing. An intention list reflects our wishes that will make us happy and what kind of person we want to be. Maybe it motivates us more than setting goals at other times. It renews our hope for the world and ourselves.
In this article, I would like to talk about the importance of setting a real and attainable goal while making a New Year’s goal list and some tips that can help you reach your goal.
First, let’s remember the importance of being a person with a purpose, shall we? One of our most significant human abilities is imagining future outcomes and manipulating the possibilities and actions to achieve desired results. Having a sense shows us what, when, at what level, and how we can direct these behaviors.
So, do we need to have a goal to live life meaningfully and richly and be happy?
I want to evaluate the answer to this question together with a part from the book called Alice in Wonderland. Alice meets the imaginary cat Cheshire on a tree branch in the forest. The cat appears and disappears of its own accord. Alice asks the cat why she was lost in the woods and which way she should go. The cat replies: ‘Depends on where you want to go.’ Alice says it doesn’t matter to her where she is. If so, the cat says it doesn’t matter which way you go.
Like in the story, if we don’t know what’s important to us and where we ultimately want to go, we won’t know where to go or what to choose. Setting goals tells us who we want to be and where we want to go.
If you say you can’t achieve even though I set new goals every year, maybe it’s because your goals so far are not the right ones. Perhaps your dreams reflect what is required of you, not what you want. Therefore, you may have had difficulty directing your behavior toward this goal. How would you like to give it a chance again, pay attention to the points I have mentioned below, and make your list and strive for it? Or, if you are already successfully achieving your New Year’s goals, evaluate how you can set your new goals.
Let’s create your target list together this new year. Let’s start! Create a quiet, peaceful environment where you can listen to yourself and take the pen and paper in your hand.!
Six steps to follow in setting achievable New Year’s goals
1. Recognizing what is wanted
First of all, what do you want? What do you wish to change? What do you want to achieve? What kind of person do you want to be? What kind of person do you value being? Give some thought to these questions. Instead of memorizing answers, try finding the solution that you want. Write down everything that comes to mind.
2. Narrowing down the options
Is your list ready? Now narrow this list down to the items that motivate you the most. Keep the items you want. Eliminate the things you don’t like or think are okay, even if they don’t.
3. Taking responsibility
I wish everything we wanted were spontaneous, but unfortunately, such a world is impossible. So we must realize that the realization of these goals is in our hands and cannot be recognized if we do not strive for it. We have the responsibility. Now back to the list again. Is there an item that is not your responsibility, and its realization entirely depends on someone else or luck? If there is such an item, eliminate it as well.
4. Making it realistic
Take a look at the remaining items on the list. How do they aim? Are they realistic targets that can be achieved within a year? Is it reachable? Is it possible for you to succeed with your effort and hard work? Turn your unattainable, extraordinary performance goals into attainable ones. For example, the fact that someone who has never done sports wants to do sports every day in the new year shows us that the target wants extraordinary performance. Instead, changing the goal by saying that I will do a physical activity that I enjoy twice a week increases both the chances of success and motivation.
5. Clarifying goals
Are your goals clear and understandable? Does every reader understand the same thing? Or does it have an ambiguous meaning? Reading more books, improving a foreign language more, eating healthier… Since such open-ended goals often lead to uncertainty, they can cause difficulties in reaching the destination. That’s why stating your goals deters you from this risk. For example, setting goals such as reading 30 books a year to read more books, watching movies without subtitles to improve a foreign language, signing up for an online course, and meditating twice a week to take time for yourself gives you a plan for exactly how you can do it. So arrange your goal in a way that embodies and expresses action.
6. Increasing motivation
Although we create our list, we can sometimes struggle to maintain motivation. I want to make a good start first. Close your eyes. Imagine reaching your goals a year later and life giving you what you want. What has changed in your life? How do you feel? Imagine the positive thoughts and feelings that come to mind, and then write them at the bottom of your list. When your motivation drops during the year, you can do this visualization exercise again or read what you wrote.