Although we all want to have a healthy relationship with our partner, most of us don’t understand what that means. Allison Cohen is a therapist who has been working with couples for many, many years. She shares her top nine tips for having a happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationship.
1. Do the same things that you did while dating.
As the years and months pass, so does the…” Relationships become less romantic We lose patience, kindness and understanding. Consider the first year in your relationship to help you overcome this. What were you like with your partner then? What would you do? Use your time? Write them down and begin to do them one by one.
2. Ask one another what you want.
We have come to believe that our partner is so familiar with us over time that we no longer need to ask each others what they want. What are you waiting for? Think about what happens This assumption is what we are assuming. Expectations and the disappointments that will follow are established. These are unmet Expectations can also lead to questions about our partner’s capabilities and the relationship. Remember that asking each other what they want can encompass everything, from your emotional needs to your sexual desires.
3. Get to know your partner.
Consider what your partner looks like, and what drives them emotionally and physically. We can feel tired thinking about what we want. Sometimes our thoughts might not be in line with their desires. It doesn’t matter if it is important to your partner or not. Sometimes it is necessary to do it.
4. “How was your day?” Ask questions beyond question.
After a long day we often ask each others, “How was your day?” We ask common questions like: This is a question we all hear often, and most people answer it: “Good.” How was yours? This situation can cause problems in your relationship and hinder your communication. You lose the chance to communicate often, even in small amounts.
If the above question isn’t enough to get you started, you can ask other creative questions. You can ask more creative questions if you don’t feel comfortable asking the question. Oder “Did anything make you feel challenged today?” You are free to ask questions. The answers you get might surprise you!
5. Make your relationship more attractive
What would you like to see change in your life? relationship if the behaviors were increased You find something in one another that you like and limit the things you don’t. You can think of this concept as “attractive” in a wider sense. Your attractiveness can also be a term that refers to how you look. Sex lifeBut it includes all the things in your day that are exciting you about your partner. Is your partner attractive to you while you are doing the housework? Or, on the contrary, when she uses the bathroom with the door open, she may not see it attractive at all… Talk to you Discuss with your partner what it means for you to have a loving relationship attractive. Be inspired, surprise, and laugh with each other
6. Spend some time creatively together.
Do you have a tight budget? Let go of the “dinner-and-movie” routine. See how a small change can revitalize your relationship. You can try looking for affordcan’tactivities in your area online.
7. Try to see beyond your feelings of inadequacy when you feel out of place.
Many conflicts are based on emotions. We tend to focus on the emotional tip of the iceberg when we address conflict, such as anger and sadness. This approach can cause confusion and defensiveness and lead to a drift from the main topic. To address the problem, you should start at the bottom. These can include loneliness, rejection, disillusionment, and disrespect.
You can let your personality shine through this. in a way that creates It is a way to show empathy (or a perception thereof) to another party. You must be honest and vulnerable with them. This reduces tensions and allows for solutions to emerge. You can, of course. When expressing yourself, avoid using harsh and accusatory language These emotions are not normal. You can, for example, use the phrase “Your behaviour has offended me” rather than “You are”
8. Don’t try to “to agree, but understand one another”
It sounds simple in theory, but it is difficult in practice. Argumentation can quickly develop in communication when we want to change our partner’s mind. We need to refocus our attention on our partner and tell them that we are correct. We don’t insist on your thoughts. Instead, we use the conversation as an opportunity for understanding your partner. This will allow you to have dialogue and stop anger outbursts.
9. Don’t apologize for apologizing.
You always have the right to apologize for any hurt you caused your partner, whether it was intentional or not. Although we all agree that “don’t togizing” is good, it can only be used for a limited purpose. It is only effective when it makes perfect sense. It’s a waste of time.
Joint effort, understanding, Protecting personal boundariesA healthy, enjoyable relationship is built on shared values. You might also consider incorporating these elements into your relationship.