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Why do we continue to have toxic relationships?

Perhaps you feel dependent on the person with whom you are in a relationship. You continue to be disappointed and unhappy in the relationship and try your best to improve it. You believe that these are one-time mistakes and that things will improve in the future.. We must face the hard truth: Humans are made up behavioral patterns. Human beings are not created from your hopes and dreams. Let’s take a look at the problems with a relationship that seems to be based on hope and dream, and discuss how we can objectively evaluate it.

How can you make a relationship work?

Inspiration, motivation, hope, and optimism are great powers. Hope can be a motivator to finish a marathon training or write a novel. Hope can be there for a loved one who is sick. While hope is an admirable quality in many settings, it can also be detrimental when it comes people. Therapists suggest that instead of dwelling on who this person might be, they should focus on their behavior patterns.

In Interpersonal relationshipsHope is often expressed in repeated attachment patterns. As an example, you might have been subject to narcissistic or other abuse as a child. Or, perhaps you have a family member/caregiver who does not take care of you. You hope that someone will love you and change. You may feel the longing or deprivation. You believe that you will get the attention that you desire from someone if you’re talented enough, attractive enough, thin enough, smart enough, and good enough. It is easy to get swept up in the fantasies of what this person could be, even though you don’t realize it. So y, without realizing that you have left the ground of reality.

What is a behavioral pattern and how can it be used?

What is mold, you ask? Mold is a problem that affects people. It is healthy to be focused on the person. patterns. If someone doesn’t answer your calls, for example, after you have expressed how It makes you feel terribleIf they do this, it’s a sign of their true identity. If someone has hurt you more than once, refuses or is unwilling to take responsibility for what happened, that’s a sign they have a pattern of behavior. It is a pattern. It is a pattern. It is a pattern. It is a pattern. You will find excuses for yourself if someone’s design lies to you multiple times. Behaviour of partner You’re not recognizing these patterns.

Do you live in a true relationship?

It is dangerous if it is done by a. Hope in the future Relationship, checking the relationship and taking a step back to look for patterns. These are some questions you can ask:

  • In what This relationship can be viewed in many ways satisfying?
  • What is the point of this relationship?
  • Is this an example of insecure, negligent or unsatisfying behavior?
  • Is he prone to acting in an unpredictable or obnoxious manner?
  • Do I express my needs? Do I just hope that things will go smoothly with this person? What do I need? How can you communicate your needs?
  • What can I do to communicate my requirements more clearly?
  • Are there any signs that this person might be trying to? My needs will be met and improve the relationship stories I tell myself about who this person will be for me?
  • Are I being realistic about the person I am describing, or do I fantasize about them and create a fantasy world?

Hope definitely has a place in Relationships are when you can see that someone is trying to meet your needs and wants to improve. The relationship. You should be cautious if you live your fantasies.

Awareness is the key to finding hope. Be aware of your fantasies and hopes.