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Toxic Friendship: 6 Signs That Your Friend Isn’t A True Friend

Our friends are beautiful details that make life sweeter and more livable. Sometimes we cry on their shoulders; sometimes, they are the first ones we call for help. Sometimes we laugh for no reason until our stomach hurts.

But do toxic relationships only apply to love relationships? Do you have toxic friendships?

Of course, there is. Sometimes our feet go back as we prepare to meet that famous friend. We don’t understand why, but our energy goes down when we’re with you. Or we feel incredibly exhausted when we come back from it.

Now let’s talk about their possible causes and what we can do. Are you ready for a conversation that will make you review your friendship relationships and even yourself if that person is you?

If you’re only talking about his life when you’re talking…

Remember that all relationships progress in a balance of give and take. Everything in the universe is built on tremendous harmony. Equalizing giving and receiving does not mean we are selfish. We need to know how to take as much as we offer. Otherwise, we will constantly be stuck in the energy of giving, and we will not be able to take our share from the abundance of the universe in any way. His relationships, his job, what happened to him… How healthy and balanced do you think this is?

A true friend does it not because he sees it as a duty but because he wants to know what’s going on in your life. This is a healthy friendship relationship.

If you’re that person who keeps talking about yourself, we’re going to ask you to stop and think for a second; Do you see the other person as a friend or as a breathing diary?

If all he does is criticize you and go against your thoughts…

A true friend should always tell the truth, and constructive criticism is his right. But be careful whether the purpose of this criticism is to get you better or to show that they are better than you.

Some people criticize to prove their superiority (!) in the current issue. A friendship relationship that constantly uses you to prove yourself and lowers your energy is toxic.

If nothing is shared…

Of course, people are free to open up as much as they want. But if you don’t know anything about the friend you tell everything about and share your deepest fears and passions with, don’t you think you should stop and think?

There may be two reasons for this; either you are the person who talks about yourself all the time, and you have not wondered anything about him, or the person in front of you does not see you with the same sincerity. There is nothing wrong with that; of course, not everyone has to see everyone equally close. But at this point, you may need to review what you shared.

If he sees all his friends, including you, as his rivals…

Of course, there is no problem with sweet, minor rivalries. But if you feel that your job, grades, relationship, and possessions are competing with yours, there is a problem.

Does he rejoice at the good things that happen to him at least as much as you do, or does he lose his temper? What energy do you get from it? Does he talk to you as if his other friends are rivals for him? There is no room for sloppy and malicious jealousy in true friendships. Your friend should not be your rival but your companion who motivates you and takes pride in achieving your dreams.

If he calls and asks when he needs something when he is bored…

This is perhaps the most complicated item to accept because we all do this to someone. Of course, when we are bored and need something, it is natural to call our friends. But if your friend disappears after his needs are met, at this point, you will need to pay attention to whether he is used or not.

You don’t have to take an active role in helping someone’s temporary loneliness, do not forget that. Only do it if you feel like it and you think the other person deserves it.

If he acts differently around other people than he usually does…

Everything goes great when we’re together. You talk nonsense together, laugh, have fun, and maybe cry; you know each other very well. When you enter a different environment, if his view of life, his behavior towards you, what he says, and his actions change, you are in a place where you need to pay attention. Your friend shouldn’t use you to get more attention and prove yourself to the outside world.

Do not forget; people’s perspectives on life, feelings, and thoughts do not change easily. Sometimes it may be necessary to avoid inconsistent people and different shapes for each container.

So what will you do if you have a friend with all of these?

No one can tell you to end your relationship or move on. No one can have a say in your life. At this point, the decision is entirely up to you; there is no right or wrong. If you think he’s hurting you and you would feel better without him, you can gently remove him from your life, if you think it’s okay, you can move on, or you can do both and maintain a balanced relationship by valuing yourself as much as he cares.