Many people who work on love have emphasized that there is no single concept of love; on the contrary, there are different concepts of love. I want to share with you the love typology of one of these researchers, Lee.
According to Lee’s love typology, there are six types of love. Three are basic types, while the other three are secondary love types. Secondary love types consist of a combination of primary love types.
Basic types of love
1. Eros love:
Eros’s love, also known as romantic love, is characterized by passion and romance. It can also be defined as lightning love. Sexual attraction and desire are in the foreground. Physical appearance is essential for partners.
2. Ludus love:
In Ludus- type love, also called game-type love; the relationship is like a game. The little games that people play against each other, which we call the dating stage, can be given as an example of this type of love. The bond between the partners is not yet developed. There is no talk of a deep passion and bond. Intermittent communication is established.
3. Storge love:
This type of love, also called permanent love, expresses the love that progresses with slow but permanent steps, where friendship and compassion replace momentary passions. The bond between people is vital.
Secondary types of love
1. Mania love:
Jealousy is very common. The fear of losing is predominant in this type of love, which emerged with the combination of the Eros and Ludus types. It can also be called the type of love in which excessive possessiveness exists.
2. Pragma love:
Because there is no passion in the business to fuel irrationality, in this type of love, where logical thoughts are at the forefront, the person seeks a reasonable and suitable partner. The idea that emotions are temporary and that material elements are more critical dominates the relationship. The combination of the Ludus and Storge types brings out realism.
3. Agape love:
The combination of Eros and Storge’s love types reveals the understanding of altruism. A person lives in love with a sense of duty but does not enter into expectations. This type of love is unrequited love. There is no expectation from the other side. The happiness of the other party is in the foreground.
Lee’s typology of love states that there cannot be a single definition of love and that people can maintain love with different understandings. How can a feeling that concerns everyone so much fit into a single report? Is it possible to have a single absolute truth to describe this feeling experienced by billions of different people? You do not think so? Every couple’s understanding of love is further. Relationship dynamics are also different. Naturally, expectations and satisfaction levels are also different. If we were to make an inference, I think we can say that most of the problems we experience in our relationships may be caused by adopting a different type of love from our partner.