Some people draw all attention to themselves as soon as they enter the environment. They listen carefully to every word that comes out of their mouth, making their ideas worth considering, even if they don’t fit your way of thinking. Maybe he is not very beautiful or handsome according to your aesthetic perception, but it is gorgeous and impressive, and you can’t understand where it comes from.
The thing is, all this charisma cannot come from one place. It’s hard to be an impressive person with a tone of voice, looks, or even beautiful facial/body features.
Impressiveness is all. It is a natural state of being.
So what are the parts of this whole? Of course, listing all the details in such open-ended, sometimes relative concepts is impossible. But that doesn’t mean we can’t list the common traits of impressive people.
Use body language correctly.
Our posture, movements, and how we use our bodies are essential. The ruling, self-confident, strong people take a tall and upright stance. They do not get stuck in the area they are in, they take up space in real terms, and they move freely. With their view, it’s almost like, “I’m here!” they say. On the other hand, shy people avoiding the spotlight display a closed body posture. If they want to disappear from there, they shrink their bodies, close them, and try to occupy as little space as possible.
You go out of your accustomed body posture; Very typical. You go out of your accustomed body posture; Very distinct. You go out of your accustomed body posture; Very distinctive. You go out of your accustomed body posture; Very typical. Being physically open may seem strange to you if you have a closed stance. Keep trying. You’ll get used to it with practice.
Do not hesitate to take up space by moving as comfortably as possible in your location. Do not close yourself off; be open. You can keep your feet hip-width apart. In an upright position, throw your shoulders back comfortably. Don’t be afraid to use your hands while speaking. Take deep breaths from your belly. Starting from here, you will see that you move more comfortably and take a more confident stance over time.
Critical to warmth: Duchenne smile
We tend to avoid inherently cold people. We feel good when we open up to hot people. We want to stay with people we feel good about longer. It’s a simple equation. A genuine smile is the easiest way to convey that kind of warmth.
A genuine smile is called, and our smile is reflected in our eyes. The exciting thing is that you can’t fake it with that kind of smile. The limbic system, the emotional center of the brain, controls it. It only occurs when you genuinelynely enjoy interacting with the person in front of you.
Getting a Duchenne smile sends a compelling message to the brain. The brain of the person you are communicating with tells the person that they like you. Since you can’t be fake while making this smile, you make the person in front of you feel that you are genuinely ready to communicate and fully appreciate every moment you share.
Eye contact is essential: don’t take your eyes off
Expressive people also make eye contact when speaking and listening. By doing this, they acknowledge your presence, establish a connection, and make you feel necessary.
Eye contact helps you increase your impressiveness by 60-70%. Regarding the dose of eye contact, you should know that you must strike a balance. Excessive eye contact can be very creepy. You don’t want people to doubt your sincerity.
The power of active listening
Who likes one-sided communication? The most exciting person in the room is most interested in other people. People don’t want to get to know those who linger on themselves.
They want to get to know the person who makes them feel good. The best way to do this is to listen carefully to the other person.
Active listening involves more than just nodding when someone else is talking. It would be best if you used all your senses. Try to understand what the other person is saying and how they are saying it. What is the tone of his voice, the pace of his speech, and what words he tends to use regularly… You also need to read between the lines about what they say or even what they don’t say. Depending on the situation, what people don’t say maybe even more important than what they say.
This will give you an idea of how the person you are communicating with feels. Do they show signs of comfort or discomfort when speaking? Do they have a closed stance? Do they use their hands often? Do they avoid eye contact?
And of course, one of the essential skills to develop is asking clarifying questions to learn more. Active listeners are like detectives trying to discover what lies beneath the surface.
As a result, the people you come in contact with feel valued, making you genuinely irresistible.