Who is the part of us that resists change and prevents us from entering new, dangerous areas? Ever wondered? “You should give up. You won’t be able to do it anyway. Don’t ever try. That voice in your head that said these words? That voice inside you that you know is your authentic voice. You are unable to feel self-worth and your potential. The Voice that holds on to you comfort zone It tells you to stay is your saboteur’s.
This sound comes from our childhood protective behaviors. Our caregivers can often hide behind protective behaviors that we see from our parents, grandparents, fathers, mothers, and grandmothers. They are usually well-intentioned but emerge with an instinct to protect us. This voice, which begins in childhood, surrounds and guides us over time. Unconsciously, we think it is ours. The saboteur becomes more assertive in his voice protector situations and it stops us from doing the protection behavior.
If you can hear the voices below, then we can. You can say that the owner is your saboteur’s ear:
- What happens if I fail to succeed?
- What happens if it doesn’t work?
- Never mind, I can’t.
- Many people wouldn’t be able to afford it. Will you?
- It’s possible you have failed the exam previously. You don’t have to take the exam again.
- He doesn’t even look at you.
You can see that the saboteurs speak in our face and limit our ability to make progress. It stops us from moving toward the future. “self-actualization” Step in Maslow’s hierarchy for needs pyramid.
How can we differentiate our voices from those of the saboteurs and how can we handle it?
The voice of our saboteur protects us against sadness, disappointment, or other negative emotions. However, no matter how good its intentions might be, it will still limit us so long as we take their advice seriously. The good news? How much the saboteur can restrain us all depends on how much of us we are. Pay attention It is possible.
How can we reveal the sound of a saboteur?
You should always have a notebook with you, whether at work or in private. Make sure you record the sentences that you attended and the date and time. Next, make a defense against the judgment of your saboteur and then write it across the sentence. You might say, “No, I cannot, I couldn’t previously, but I gained much more experience.” Now, I have more knowledge and I’m more experienced. Although I may not have passed, my excitement about that exam was lost. I gained valuable experience and I was able to identify my weaknesses. This is a time I can win. This is how it works. WayWe bring forth the voice of the saboteur, which is abstract within us, and we put it into words. As we succeed Each negative response must be addressed This is the blocking sound. The saboteur will sound weaker and less frequent over time.
You can also learn to ignore your saboteur’s voice and understand that not all scenarios it presents are so catastrophic.
- “True, it’s sad that this relationship is ending, but it will wear on me over time and hurt my self-esteem. I’ll end up more miserable.”
- “Yes, it will disappoint me if I fail this exam. But, doing nothing will make me unhappy and feel worthless.”
- “It’s possible that I won’t be promoted or find a job at work that I like, but that doesn’t make me incompetent. I possess many skills and talents.
Listening to the voice saying “You can’t fail” is a way to determine success and to write down reasons why you failed. Negative directions are given because the agent of the saboteur has no logic basis. His words lack substance and are filled with fear and distrust. It is better to listen to the voice and respond than to ignore it.