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5 Principles That Will Help You Carve Your Own Path in Life

Would you like to live your life on your terms? To be the architect of your life? Then it’s time to chart your path and live your life the way you want!

“If you don’t chart your path in life, you will find yourself walking someone else’s path. Guess what awaits you on that road? Nothing.” – Jim Rohn

What would it be like if you had to design your perfect day from when you wake up to when you go to bed at night? For example, we could ask:

・Loving what we do and being motivated by it 

・Feeling calm, energetic and happy

・Having fun and making money

・Having meaningful relationships

・Being able to say “no” with confidence

Now we will look for the answer to this question: What skills or habits do you need to get there? Like the items above, think about what you expect from that day. When you consider your field or the changes you want to make, these could be any number of things, such as communication skills, public speaking, meditation, coding, cycling, or video editing.

It’s not just about gaining skills for your career; it’s also about what you want to experience that day. We do not know what the future will bring us; therefore, we must take responsibility for the progress we will make in our way. While we can’t precisely predict the path from point A to point B, we can create the tools we’ll need along the way. 

Now that we know where we want to go and what we want to experience, how about looking at the five principles we need to adopt those skills starting today?

Principle 1: Make a plan and stick to it.

“How we plan our days shows how we live.” – Gretchen Rubin.

The golden rule of time management is this: If it’s planned, it gets done. When you wake up in the morning, you can’t expect your walk or daily chores to be miraculously done. Often, you don’t do what needs to be done because of a lack of motivation or a lack of plan. You have to intend to bring it to life. You need to determine an exact date, time, and place.

In addition, timing is also critical. So monitor your energy levels throughout the day. If you are a morning person, try to do your active and cognitive tasks early in the morning. If you’re getting lazy towards the evening, it doesn’t seem like the best time to make progress on your blogging career. If you’re a night person, it’s useless to try to get into a new habit like exercising at 6 a.m. There’s no need to torture yourself for an unrealistic goal just because of advice that says you should establish a morning routine. This will only reduce your motivation and cause you to give up.

That’s why you can program the new skills you want to develop for the hours of the day when you are most energetic and creative. Remember, the planning strategy is a powerful weapon against the ‘I’ll do it tomorrow’ mentality.

Principle 2: Define your identity and values.

“Creative people create. Action is identity. Over time, you become what you do. You don’t need anyone’s permission to call yourself a writer, entrepreneur, or musician. All you have to do is write, start a business and make music.” – Chase Jarvis.

Behavior change is not about willpower or motivation; it’s about personality. You must be willing to let go of the old version of yourself that doesn’t serve your future goals and ambitions. You may have adopted a specific habit a few years ago that worked at the time, but that habit may be holding you back from achieving your new goals.

The Corona epidemic has shown us that conditions and priorities can change anytime. Usually, we do our daily pursuits on autopilot, not stopping to question habits or patterns that are good for us. More importantly, we do not ask those who hinder us. Most of the time, we are stuck in a way we are unaware of. Even if we are aware, we have no idea how to change it.

Acquiring new skills and habits often requires letting go of old ones. It’s not about breaking ancient traditions but not being able to fit into them anymore.

Maybe you have a habit of watching Netflix late every day because you think you shouldn’t waste your time and enjoy your night. What if you go to sleep at 21:30 and wake up earlier? Maybe instead of complaining that you don’t have enough time for anything, you can create more time and space for the things that matter to you.

Focus on who you want to be and how you want to spend your days. Thus, you will be able to see the decisions you need to make more clearly.

Principle 3: Decide the night before.

Do you wake up in the morning when the alarm goes off, or do you always press the snooze button? 

Do you pass over an activity because you don’t feel like it, or are you afraid of failure?

Are you constantly postponing an action, thinking the right time has not come?

Make a specific decision about something you want to do, and don’t question it. If you’ve answered any of these questions you don’t want to accept, then perhaps you should try making the decisions the night before. Don’t be fooled by these excuses when your mind starts arguing that you’re too tired, it’s too early, it’s too cold for that, or you need a break! Just get up and take action. 

True self-confidence comes when you keep your promises to yourself. Just start, don’t force yourself. Take one small step at a time. Take a deep breath. Read a page, and write a sentence. Our priority is to make it a habit. You can think about how to improve it later.

Principle 4: Incorporate activities you enjoy into your daily life.

“Do not pursue happiness; Pursue a lifestyle that makes you happy!” – Dandapani.

People usually every day wonder if 10 minutes of meditation can affect lowering stress levels. Lori Milner’s answer to this question: “How do you spend the remaining 23 hours and 50 minutes of your day?”

If you meditate in the morning and spend the rest of the day in a panic, non-stop, eating toxic foods and only getting 5 hours of sleep, then the answer is, “No, it doesn’t.” There will be no change in your stress level. It’s like exercising for an hour in the morning and eating pizza for lunch and dinner. 

What enjoyable activities can you create on the way to your goal? Find activities that are good for your soul and will help improve your work quality. Thus, if your lifestyle supports your purpose, you will not be a victim of your environment and circumstances.

Principle 5: Time management = energy management + border management

“Plan your life in such a way that you never need a vacation.” – Boruch Akbash

The starting point for progress is to have enough energy for that job. We’re not just talking about physical energy here; we’re also talking about mental and spiritual energy. It isn’t easy to progress out the proper means to replenish your energies and recharge you. So it’s time to stop and think:

・Do you prioritize using your energy properly and taking care of yourself?

・Have you ever told yourself stories that sleep is for weak people and that you can only achieve something by getting little sleep?

・Do you allow yourself to relax your mind after work?

Only do what you know you have to do. Drink more water, cut down on sugary foods, get 8 hours of sleep every day, take breaks during the day and stop checking your emails on the weekends.

There is no room for guilt here. The most important is your well-being. You control your days, don’t let them control you.