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10 Signs You’re Stuck in a One-sided Relationship

If you’ve ever been in a one-sided relationship, you’re probably familiar with the intense feeling of loneliness that comes with it. In this type of relationship, you still feel lonely even if that person is physically sitting next to you in the same room. Because you are not seen emotionally and not given attention by your partner. Even if you are committed to your partner, there is a significant difference between being selfless in love and loving someone who takes everything from you but gives you nothing meaningful in return.

What is a one-sided relationship?

According to Mychelle Williams, a one-sided relationship can be defined as one that lacks balance and fair reciprocity. This type of relationship can take the form of one party giving more time, energy, effort, and emotional or financial support than the other.

What we call a relationship should feel like a haven where we can relax, enjoy and weather brutal storms together. However, over time, managing the relationship alone becomes overwhelming and tiring for the dedicated party. If it seems boring to you, rest assured it drains both physically, mentally, and spiritually! The responsibilities required to nurture and run a relationship should be shared equally by both partners.

Ten signs that you are in a one-sided relationship

1. It is not for you when you are always there for it.

According to Williams, if you find yourself constantly meeting his needs instead of being in a reciprocal flow with your partner, that’s a dangerous sign that you have a one-sided relationship. If your partner is in contact with you only when they want something, but you cannot reach them when you are in a similar need, you may need to review some things.

2. You are the only one is making an effort in the relationship.

You are made to feel as if you are solely responsible for maintaining intimacy and communication. When you voice this disproportionate effort, it belittles your situation, as if you exaggerate it.

3. You feel insecure and inadequate.

You do your best, but this effort will get nowhere. Over time, you question your worth and believe that your needs are not important enough to talk about. After all, if you were good enough, wouldn’t he want to make you happy?

4. You always find an excuse for their attitude towards you.

Either he’s always having a bad day or going through a tough time. Justifying your partner’s actions may seem out of love, but it can also signify that you’re avoiding these facts. You prefer to see them as the potential person they could be rather than as they are.

5. It is always you who apologizes.

According to Joanne Kim, in such relationships, one party is too empathetic to the needs and feelings of the partner. At the same time, the other party is too indifferent and insensitive to the other’s experiences. To reduce the stress in the relationship, even if you did nothing wrong, you may now find yourself apologizing to the other party to end the argument. 

6. You feel as if you are walking on tiptoe around him.

Since you do not want to upset him, you are careful when discussing specific topics. You sweep anything that might trigger an argument under the rug. Superficial conversations, on the other hand, are pleasant and safe.

7. You are never sure about how you feel.

  • Since communication is not transparent, you may find yourself constantly thinking about his behavior towards you and trying to understand how he feels. And because you are unsure, you ignore your feelings and prioritize theirs. After a while, the relationship starts to be built on more speculation and guesswork instead of the realities based on the foundations.

8. You talk about problems in your relationship with your friends rather than your partner.

Getting a second opinion is always helpful, but it’s not a good sign if you run into your friends whenever you have relationship problems. It will be more constructive to talk to the person who can solve these problems, namely your partner.

9. You think you can change or control it.

You constantly give clues that you want to change how they interact with you, but at the end of the day, it’s up to him, not you. People don’t change unless they want to. Even if you think it’s best for that person, forcing them to change who they take manipulation. This will be more bad than good.

10. You don’t share details about your relationship with loved ones or make your relationship look better than it is.

You may not feel comfortable sharing some topics about your relationship with your family or friends. You hesitate to hear questions about how they treat you and your partner.

So how can we repair a one-sided relationship?

Transforming a one-sided relationship into a healthy one can be difficult because there has never been an open conversation about limits and expectations. But of course, it is not impossible. It just takes a lot of effort, honest communication, reflection on the relationship, and professional support if needed.

Here are a few tips to help you take the relationship to a healthier level and create a dynamic in which both parties are understood and heard!

1. Be realistic and ask questions honestly that you avoid asking yourself.

Be honest with yourself about the person you’re in a relationship with. Do you feel comfortable telling this person what’s inside you? Is he listening to you? Does he accept your feedback moderately? What problems do you constantly encounter in a relationship?

2. Think about your boundaries in the relationship and the reasons that caused the relationship to break down.

Having healthy boundaries helps you draw a clear line on what you can and cannot tolerate. You don’t have to give anyone a request, but at least you can clearly emphasize the important things to you.

3. Be open and make more time to talk about your relationship.

The only way to find balance is to discuss your relationship and expectations. Take time with each other to talk about how you’ve been feeling lately and your limitations. Discover barriers between you that you may not be aware of but may exist. So you can decide how long you can stay in that relationship without meeting your needs.